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KO

Posted 3/10/2021

I didn't imagine that within such a short space of time as 6 weeks that I would feel so much better. I feel as though I've opened a door and although my therapy has ended for now I like to think that I will return sometime next year to tackle some more demons. For now I can function 'normally' again. 

Thank you

PB

Posted 3/10/2021

I travelled a long way to see you for our sessions and I don't regret one mile of it. You 'got me' from day one and even when you didn't, you told me and didn't just nod your head like so many people do.

I've gone from strength to strength as a result of my therapy and I can not find words adequate enough to thank you. 

I was so sad to say goodbye!

A

Posted 3/10/2021

I wanted to write this feedback to encourage anyone who is having doubts about making the first contact with Thom to take that first initial step.....I know I read the feedback page in great length before contacting him as I was not really sure ‘what went on’ in therapy...

I never thought I “qualified” for therapy as I would not say I had one big issue, just lots of small things & events such as relationship breakdowns & childhood issues that had mounted up over the years into what I can only describe as an impossible knotted almost football sized lump inside me that I was incapable of breaking down. I just had to carry it around and this imaginary growth was getting bigger and bigger and weighing me down. It stopped my mind from thinking in a rational manner and everyday life was just becoming more and more difficult. I was worried my composure mask was going to slip at work or in my social circle and that everyone would then know I had mental health issues and I would be labelled as the ‘unstable one’ (that’s how I felt inside).

21 months ago I knocked on Thom’s door after the suicide of a friend which was for me the final straw that led me to seek professional help – for years I had battled on and off with a rollercoaster like depression - some ups, but more downs, trying to hide and control it with medication and self help books but this was the tipping point for me. Something that I felt was about to tip me over the edge and that I could not deal with alone and by myself. 

I always thought therapy was for people with ‘real’ deep rooted issues such as abuse and I almost felt I should not be ‘wasting’ Thom’s time with what I thought must appear as trivial issues to a trained professional. How wrong I was! Although I felt very vulnerable and exposed to begin with I felt at instant ease with Thom. He has a very natural way about him and for me the most important factor was that he does not have a white coat persona, he is just himself. 

A very down to earth, gentle, kind and deeply caring individual who has an immense passion about his job combined with being the ultimate professional.

He was to begin with a total stranger who I had to learn to trust before I began to pour my heart and soul out to. Some of the stuff that came from inside me surprised me to the core, I had no idea that I had so much stored up inside me and Thom helped me to keep on challenging myself in my own time and at my own speed to keep pouring out all that I had felt was trapped deep inside.

Some weeks we would have a very intense and emotional session and I would leave with tear stained eyes feeling emotionally and mentally drained. Other weeks he would just know that I was fragile and not in the right state of mind to look any deeper and just deal with what was on the surface.

Not all the sessions are deep and dark, many weeks we would share a good giggle and he does have a wicked sense of humour!

He never made judgement, he just listened supported and encouraged me. Those first few months were hard, but something deep within motivated me to return, week after week. I wanted to find out about myself, what had made me as I was, and to look at where I might be going wrong and how I could make things better.

We talked about every aspect of my life and he listened carefully, asking pertinent questions that usually gave me the answers I needed in my own replies.

He has helped me to rationalise thought processes, to step outside of the thinking box and he has introduced me to boundaries, which I have been able to understand and implement in my life and this has made profound changes.

Almost 2 years on I am a much more confident and self assured person who has regained my sparkle and lust for life. Many friends have commented on the amazing change.

Thom...my heartfelt thanks for everything you have helped me achieve, your belief in me, your encouragement and your dedication to help me succeed. This week we have started to talk about endings. In one way it is going to feel a great loss of a strong built bond but on the flip side it makes me feel proud that I am now armed with the knowledge to be able to cope with life’s up’s and down’s on my own.

We have use many analogies in our sessions and all I can say is l have felt like a butterfly with a badly broken wing after trying to force myself back into my cocoon. You have helped me out of this deep dark space, to mend my wing and take flight again! Soaring higher than ever before!

MP

Posted 3/10/2021

I've come to the end of my counselling and I can't tell you how much I have benefited from my sessions. I expected a magic wand which of course it isn't, but I have learnt a lot about myself and with that learnt better ways of dealing with my problems. 

I felt so lonely when I came to see you. I thought I was the only person in the world feeling like this and with my problem. You made it easy for me to talk to you and you didn't judge me. 

Thank you so much. 

TJ

Posted 3/10/2021

It's hard to believe that I've come as far as this. Only a few months ago I imagined my life was over and I came to you the most desperate I've ever been in my life. You didn't judge me or make me false promises or sit nodding your head in a patronising way. I could sense that you were genuine right at the outset and we have both worked hard. Thank you for your time and experience and most of all for being just you. 

LK

Posted 3/10/2021

Thom manages to balance professionalism with a genuinely caring attitude, He puts you at ease as soon as meeting you. I was TERRIFIED walking up to the door and as soon as we met I felt immediately reassured and comfortable in his company. I suffered childhood abuse for many years and I thought it may be difficult talking to a man about it but Thom had been highly recommended so I went along and took a chance. I'm so glad that I did. He has skills beyond pieces of paper to prove it (although he obviously has them as well!) and things came out of my counselling that I never thought would or could. There isn't enough space here to reflect what an impact this has had on my life but I would like to say thank you again - I will never forget you.

MM

Posted 3/10/2021

Firstly, I want to say that Thom is a counsellor who great for putting you at ease and helps you to open up about your issues in life. When I first began, I was nervous, reserved and afraid but Thom helped me bring myself out of my shell with his non-judgmental, sensitive and attentive approach to therapy. He is able to switch your mentality and divert your attentions away from focusing on the possibilities and reverting to practiality. He is helpful particularly in viewing situations from a range of angles and gently challenging and encouraging you to challenge your own assumptions about what ever situation you bring to counselling. I have always found Thom to be extremely professional and open with me on anything I have discussed with him. He is very attentive to information that you provide and has often recalled many key pieces of information from past session to influence present ones. I am very glad that I have met Thom and have undertaken his help in rediscovering myself and building my own sense of belief, confidence and resolve.

Thank you so so so so much!

LL

Posted 3/10/2021

Thankyou! I had a serious dilemma and didn't know which way to turn. Advice from friends and family was fast and furious but didn't help however well intentioned. I needed someone impartial who could help me find my own answers of which I did so thank you Thom. 

Anita

Posted 3/10/2021

Thom is a great person to go on a voyage of self-discovery with. His incredible insight and intuition really takes you to where you need to be, but never in a forceful way, always at your own pace with lots of support and encouragement and totally without any judgment. He is very easy to talk to and I always felt confident that there was 100% confidentiality, so I could be open, honest and frank. We covered a whole range of issues that I had been through and surprisingly it wasn't always the major traumas that were the problem. Some of the revelations throughout the journey were quite painful, but they were necessary and acted as a 'release'. So, 'thank you' Thom for guiding me through the experience and enabling me to really 'see'. 

Sheila

Posted 3/10/2021

I want to record my grateful thanks to you, Thom, for all you have encouraged me to achieve over the past year. You helped to restore my self confidence and a belief in myself in such a kind and caring way. Your support gave me the tools to put the past behind me, to live in 'the now' and to be hopeful for the future - I will be eternally grateful that a simple Google search led me to your door. Serendipity?

You are a very special person - patient, non-judgmental, knowledgeable and utterly professional. I immediately felt comfortable in your warm and inviting office, and, even when the conversation was painful, always felt the warmth of your empathy and understanding. What a memory too! - although you must have many clients, you always remember what we have discussed previously - a real gift.

I will miss our meetings but am optimistically looking forward to a new and happier 'phase four' of my life. Heartfelt thanks for showing me the way.